Why Jealousy Tempting Passionately

Lately, I was confronted on interesting thing, when happily surfing on the net wave.

Its about why people with great spouse still cheating. The man that have a beautiful wife, graceful, smart, funny, still cheat. The women with charismatic, funny, interesting, capabel husband, cheat also.

It's so ridiculous, because the notion that belived by our society is that when you have a great spouse and relationship, you wont cheat.

but why? Why the hell.. it could happened? why have the perfect thing and still feel not enough?
Is it because basic human doing of never feeling enough?

but isn't that not feeling enough can be solved by being humbled. being grateful.
so the cheater can solve this problem with gratefulling anything. Never take anything for granted.

Is it solved?
are their reason for cheating is only the not enough feeling?

The man cheater said that he cheat out of impulse. Just cheat because tempted on it.

Like little kid that tempted by the candy in front of him, take it, eat it, without thinking the ownership. Even though he already know that kind of act is plainly wrong. He just can't helped it.


If that is the reason, it should be easy just to tell the cheater to grow up and be more responsible.

okay, we can stop it here.

but I like to more deeper. To the question like how could the kid tempted?

So lets get a little philosophical crazy. haha.


The Reason.

One explanation of this phenomena came from the passion formula.

Passion = Attraction/Desire + Obstacle

with this formula, we could answer why the thing we already have was not excite us anymore. because the obstacle doesn't exist anymore.
The wife or husband tend to think, that they have already owned their spouse. Ergo, it doesn't excite them anymore.

The Guitar that you really wanna buy, so you save money for a year, that so exciting to play doesn't feel so anymore after you've owned it for a year. The obstacle just doesn't exist anymore.

well, the question remain from this answer is that how to have something but still be passionate about it?

The answer that I could thought is to Level Up. Like in the game.

Have higher goal together, and try to achive it together.

well, that what I could say now.. haha